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Wednesday, September 24, 2014

The most beautiful trick in the world, or getting started with the smiling game

Never forget what you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. 
George R.R. Martin

It is not easy to smile all the time. One can have a bad day, or huge challenges to take care of, or one can be tired. Or worried. Or sad. Or alone. Or sick. Or whatever.

But it is always worth smiling, because smiling is the most beautiful trick in the world.
The brain is not able to recognize whether a smile is genuine or not and if one is able to smile long enough for the brain to 'record' the act of smiling itself, it is going to react to the 'happiness signals' sent by the body and produce endorphins anyway. Thirty seconds are enough for this.

[Funny, cocky and yet true:
the reason why one smiles is just not as important as smiling itself. 
Smile, even if you do it because of a jerk, 
or because you are not in love with a jerk any longer]

So if you are smiling for thirty seconds because you are thinking about something beautiful, you are in love, you got a promotion, you saw a baby cat, you found the shoes of your life on sale... or just because you decided to use your face muscles to smile on purpose... it doesn't make any difference: you are going to feel good while doing it. In the same way.

[Lillian Gish as Lucy, the girl 
in Broken Blossoms or The Yellow Man and the Girl 
(USA 1919) by D.W. Griffith...
you can absolutely do better than this!]

It is a trick worth using, don't you think?
So think about yourself, think about who you are, think about how special you are. Make George R.R. Martin's words your new mantra, and smile because of it. And then smile again. And again. And then smile again. And keep smiling.

Smile while you are walking on the street, smile while you are meeting new people, smile at work, smile while you are together with your friends and loved ones. Smile while you are dancing, no matter where you are. Smile while you are playing with kids or pets. 

Make smiling your new, most important habit. And don't give up even if it could be a bit weird for you at the beginning, if you are not yet used to it.

[Marilyn Monroe says that you have to smile...]

In order to make the situation even more interesting, play a little game: what if you should be able to make other people smile too? 
Smiling can be contagious: one smiles, someone can smile back. The person that is smiling back can feel suddenly better and she can start smiling on her own and she can smile at someone else... 
In more than one language it is said that someone has an 'infectious smile', about very positive people that are able to make other people smile. Let's make your smile that smile.

How? Think about yourself, be proud of it, smile and keep smiling also while meeting unknown people. Try every day to have three people smiling back at you. 
Don't give up even if most people won't... and don't feel frustrated even if maybe nobody or only one person or two people will smile back.

Numbers are not so important, while playing the smiling game. Every single smile will be a precious gift, for you and for the other person.
Are you ready to try?

Tags: Emotions, Happiness, Smiling, Smile, People, Quotes, Smiling game

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Saturday, September 20, 2014

LinkedIn two-step verification system and the mystery of human relationships

[The message says:
Two-Step Verification
You are signing in from an unrecognized device.
Please enter the verification code sent to the phone number ending in XXXX 
[United States, Germany in my personal case] to finish signing in.]

When I am signing in to my LinkedIn account, I get the message below, every time, together with a SMS containing the verification code. As soon as I decide to sign in, I get the SMS. Then I just have to use the code sent via SMS to login. Action and reaction. 

Everything is clear, simple, automatic and foreseeable. 
I do something and something else happens, as a consequence. The same action causes the same reaction to happen, every time. If I do A, then and only then I get B. If I do C, something else happens. If I don't do anything, nothing happens.

No surprises, no drama, no tears, no frustration are involved.
Action and reaction. 

Why human relationships can't be like that as well?
Why one has to ask himself/herself all the time if one is doing the right thing or not? Why I have to wait, even if would love to be contacted just right now?

If you should have the solution for the deep mystery of human relationships, please drop me a line.
And feel free to drop me a line even if you don't have the ultimate solution, but just a clue.

Tags: LinkedIn verification code, Human relationships, Action and reaction